以下是引用岚裳在2004-6-29 10:05:25的发言:
认同这种说法,很多人认为新官上任必定要放三把火,其实还搞不清情况就乱放火,可能会误伤,首先要做的就是彻底了解每一个对手,无欲老兄这个故事没听过,可以换一个,某人租了朋友的一个庭院,一开始的时候就锄光院子里所有的杂草,谁知秋天朋友到访,惊呼,我的那些牡丹啊、菊花啊,都去哪里了?原来那人住进的时候并不是花开的季节,因此他把好花也当杂草除了,所以,这就是没看清对手所犯下的错误,一个人的好坏,一两个月之内是看不出来的,必须在长期的合作中,通过一些事来全面反映一个人的素质,方为上策。
嗯 this is another good example. I defnitely agree that we need to spend more time to understand something and spend much more time to really know someone.
However, personally, i prefer to find a way to understand someone soon. As we know, in some caes, we have not got enough time to even remember their name, but, we have to cooperate with them.
So, our dear friends, have you got any experience to know someone in a short time rather a long time?
tell me the approach. |