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[此贴子已经被作者于2009-8-11 19:40:13编辑过] <P style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; TEXT-INDENT: 24pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-ALIGN: justify; mso-char-indent-count: 2.0"><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体>如果有这样一份工作，你愿不愿意做呢：这是一份志愿工作，工作对社会帮助很大。而且这份工作需要经常性地各地出差和户外工作，也有一些危险性。由于工作性质特别，工作内容不能让女友知道。最让人难以忍受的是，这份工作永远只有一件小号制服，还不让换。</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥"> <?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体> 现在你可以先把自己的回答勾选出来（非常愿意、比较愿意、无所谓、不太愿意、绝不愿意），然后继续往下读。</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥"> <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体> 首先来一起分析一个学生的求职经历：</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥"> <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体> 前不久刘帅参加了一个特别的人才遴选，其中一个环节是</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">“</SPAN><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体>无领导小组讨论</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">”</SPAN><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体>。</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">8~10</SPAN><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体>人一个小组，对一个比较有争议的问题自由讨论，最后达成一致，并选派一名发言人汇报小组观点。因为不事先指定主持人，所以被称为</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">“</SPAN><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体>无领导</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">”</SPAN><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体>。在讨论过程中，外圈会有</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">3~4</SPAN><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体>名专家进行观察评分。这种评估方式可以很好地分析一个人的人际互动风格与能力。</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥"> <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体> 刘帅最后被淘汰了，虽然他的智能素质、坚持性等品质都非常好，但他的领导能力和组织协调能力只得了</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">60</SPAN><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体>分（满分</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">100</SPAN><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体>）。这是一个遴选具有优秀导演潜质学生的项目，而作为一个优秀导演其组织协调与领导能力是非常重要的。</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥"> <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体> 面对自己的评估结果，刘帅给评估专家提出这样的反馈：</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">“</SPAN><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体>在无领导讨论中我知道自己表现不出色，讨论的领域是我不熟悉的，所以我一直不敢妄下判断，也一直没有什么很强的证据支撑自己的观点。而且我觉得倾听和思考更重要，从别人的观点中可以找到自己不足的地方，加以补充和完善。所以，我更多地在倾听和思考。而且，说实话，很多次我想开口都被一阵一阵高于我的声音给压下去了</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">……</SPAN><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体>还想请教一下，我应该怎么在倾听和发表意见中寻求一个平衡？</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">” <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体> 那么，你如何给刘帅建议呢？是让他做真实的自己，还是做一个可以取得高分但并不真实的自己呢？</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥"> <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: ''; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> 沿着这样的问题再深入一下：你是要去寻找一个适合的工作领域，还是随时改变自己以适应工作环境？</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: ''; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">──</SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: ''; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">人是否具有进行无限改变的潜力呢？</SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: ''; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> </SPAN> <p> </p>
<p style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><span style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'">心理学测评学家喜欢用一个比喻：你如果要教一个猴子上树只要踢一脚即可，而你要教一只大象上树则需要从小开始，并不断从潜意识让它相信自己会上树，就像让闪电狗以为自己可以霹雳吼一样，然后天天练习，最后一辈子也许就学会一个蹩脚的上树技巧。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥"> <?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><span style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"> 对于刘帅，我觉得显然的答案就是：一个人不需要努力去做</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">“</span><span style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'">别人</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">”</span><span style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'">，所以并不存在那个</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">“</span><span style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'">平衡</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">”</span><span style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'">点。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥"> <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><span style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"> 也许自以为明眸善睐的人会指点刘帅：你一定要主动表现自己，争取多发言，积极一点。也许如此一来他可能得了高分，但也许他将开始进入一个生涯的无间道</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">──</span><span style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'">只有通过不断的说服，才能忍受环境要求与天性的不统一性。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥"> <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><span style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"> 有一个调查表明，求职者普遍有</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">“</span><span style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'">被歧视感</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">”</span><span style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'">。其实正是因为求职者一方面对自己</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">“</span><span style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'">适应环境</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">”</span><span style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'">的潜力高估了，另一方面对环境的了解自以为是了。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥"> <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><span style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"> 关于篇头那个职业，不知你的选项是什么，也不知你如何做出这个选择的。你到底喜欢或者不喜欢这个职业里的什么？这与</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">“</span><span style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'">真正的自己</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">”</span><span style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'">是否一致？现在，如果我告诉你这个职业就是</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">“</span><span style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'">超人</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">”</span><span style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'">，你有什么感觉？你还会保持原有的选择吗？如果你要改变选项，这说明你对自己，或者对这个职业认识不足，你陷入了信息不对称并</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">“</span><span style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'">自以为是</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">”</span><span style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'">的迷雾里。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥"> <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><span style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"> 因此，我们需要对自己有一个清楚的分析与定位，否则时刻以社会热点为自己的指南针，并相信自己可以被改造成所有可能人才，最后的结局也许是老了才感慨自己</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">“</span><span style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'">入错行</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">”</span><span style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'">。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥"> <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><span style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"> 但是，对自己的了解绝对不是坐在那里就可以搞定的。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥"> <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p><span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New="New"Roman'; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> 如同刘帅，也许他以往的自信足以让他相信：自己如果有机会一定会发挥足够的组织协调与领导能力。因此，自我了解需要在实践中进行。</span></p>
[此贴子已经被作者于2009-8-7 10:52:14编辑过] <P style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体>有个学生如此践行：</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥"> <?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体> 带着父母对未来热点的预估，和对未来金领的梦想，黄琳考上了一个名校的电子系。上了几个月的课后，她感觉自己如果沿着这样的专业路径走下来，未来不堪</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">“</SPAN><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体>瞻望</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">”</SPAN><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体>。幸运的是，黄琳没有自信到以为</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">“</SPAN><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体>什么兴趣都可以培养</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">”</SPAN><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体>，当然她也没有失望到无所作为。相反，她开始忙碌地旁听其他院系的课程。最后她锁定了心理学。未来的三年多时间，她俨然成了心理学专业的学生，当然她持续保证自己的电子专业及格。到了大四，她已经拿到心理学许多学分，并且认识了一些老师，甚至参与了一个老师的研究课题。自然，她顺利地考上了心理学专业的研究生。</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥"> <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体> 带着这种探索的喜悦，黄琳继续探索，三年研究生期间，她努力研读国外文献、争取发表英文论文、努力参加心理学国际性会议</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">──</SPAN><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体>这种目标感与执著，使她得到许多机会。</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥"> <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体> 研究生毕业，她自信而平和地申请出国读书，而且只投出一份申请。没有意外地，她得到全额奖学金。你能否接着预测一个黄琳的未来？其实没有人知道她的未来，但无论如何，相信她会走自己喜欢的路。</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥"> <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体> 曾经有位著名的导演说：天道有时惩勤</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">──</SPAN><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体>你辛辛苦苦往上爬一架梯子，然而多年以后等你爬到顶端，才发现原来梯子搭错了墙。如果你还是一个学生，那么你也许现在就需要多一些实践，在实践中进一步了解自己，了解自己喜欢的环境是什么。</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥"> <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体> 理论上讲，有的人喜欢与人打交道，有的人喜欢与物打交道，有的人喜欢数据，有的人喜欢谈观念；有些人需要机会垂青，有些人则特别善于创造机会</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">……</SPAN><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体>但无论如何，发现这种</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">“</SPAN><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体>型</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥">”</SPAN><SPAN style="COLOR: #363636; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Verdana,ˎ̥'"><FONT face=宋体>是需要在实践中进行的。</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="COLOR: #363636; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana,ˎ̥"> <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: ''; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> 如果你已经在职场混迹多年，但却持续郁闷，也许你需要业余时间给自己一些投资</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: ''; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">──</SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: ''; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">投资一些机会去实验、实践自己</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: ''; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">“</SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: ''; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">真正的自己</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: ''; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">”</SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: ''; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">。要知道，生命的长度并不重要，重要的是生命的质量。而只有</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: ''; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">“Do what you interested</SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: ''; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">，</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: ''; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">money following you”</SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: ''; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">才能使生命更值得回忆。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: ''; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">“</SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: ''; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">超人</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: ''; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">”</SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: ''; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">也许永远不是你理解的样子，只有你做做看才知道，并知晓其与</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: ''; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">“</SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; 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<p>可惜不在北京</p> <p>现在在哪儿高就啊 你没做安利啦？</p>
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