我自己的事业心发展道路——大家谈谈感受吧

jimsherry

最近一直在思考一个问题：我的事业心越来越淡，真的不知道对我以后来说是好是坏！我上大学时豪情万丈，只想着进入社会大显身手一展抱负，我的父亲总是为了我强烈的事业心而骄傲。工作后，但觉得自己事业心逐年下降，倒不是因为自己消极或者没有激情，而是总是感受到亲情、爱情在生活中的地位越来越重，有时候很好的机会我会为了女友的开心而放弃一些，鱼与熊掌有时确实很难兼得。而且，现在还总是感觉强烈追求事业是否太累，生活的本质到底是什么？我更应该看重哪一个？我越来越糊涂！自己依然喜欢学习，依然积极进步、积极工作，但再也很少去做成功梦，再也不在酒桌上大谈事业，我甚至认为，人若本事到了，自然成功会来找你；人若无才，成功与自己无缘的。
    看到很多成功人士的书籍和演讲，几乎都承认一点，人要有强烈的事业心，一生要孜孜不倦的追求——有必要吗？需要吗？我已经糊涂了！

家人此方面的思想状况和感受是怎么样的？我想参照以正视自己！期望看到家人的发言！

t405

一种心态，一种平衡，完全在楼主一念之间

晔子

楼上的笑死我了，这不能怪人家啊，人家是喜欢妹妹才用了个妹妹的贴图罢了，他的介绍里有照片的，标准男人一个，呵呵，真有意思！看来想让回贴多一些可以换一个妹妹的头象啊！
      平淡的生活中，我们常常能收获各种各样的感动。也正是这些感动，让我们可以迷途知返，不断前行。我不羡慕花前月下青春男女的聊聊我我，却会为林荫道上相扶走过的头发花白的老来相伴而动容。相识是一种缘，相知更是一种缘，能够在茫茫人海中相遇相知相爱相携相伴更是一种千年修来的缘。所以，珍惜。如果真的爱情和事业有所矛盾，那么就想办法，尽最大可能去平衡两者的关系，只要心中时时记得这份爱，你永远都有答案。

dreamerbug

以下是引用micle在2003-6-4 10:38:52的发言：

即使真能熊掌与鱼兼得，未必是一件好事，因为，缺憾是一种美丽。

    真好，寓意深刻
   量力而行，适可而止，贪心，追求完美，坚持不懈，功成名就
   原来一场空。

   另：楼主是不是耍我们啦：)
           一直以为你是位MM，头像那么盎惑
        害得我天天跟帖，有没有天理呀：))

jimsherry

很感谢各位家人的回帖，我原本以为本话题过于平淡，或者说过于庸人自扰，但没有想到引起一干家人的分析、帮忙，鄙人感激不尽！
   我和女友共处7年，各自都买有房子，但从未生活在一起，我们更喜欢各自留有空间。端午节时，女友患病身体不适，我电话嘱咐女友休息，这个劳什子节日今年就免了。下班回到家中，正在度量自己是不是应该去照顾女友时，她却已经买好吃的东西敲我的门。看到她一脸倦色，我这个主题的帖子已经有了答案。我生还能有何求，还会有何不知足呢？
   事业顺其自然吧，不再强求，人生的成功不仅仅是事业。
   再次谢谢家人！！！

leitl

看自己的需要吧，开心是最好的。如果现在你在为这件事情烦心，那就该好好考虑下你真正在乎的是什么。不过人要懂得放弃，有得必有失，但塞翁失马焉知非福。

Tar

因为活着，所以一定要走出一条属于自己的路
不管跌到过多少次
经历多少挫折和苦痛
但是这段生命将永远属于自己

我只希望自己在死去的时候
可以对自己说
还好，这辈子你没有白活

haohao

舍得舍得，一辈子路很长往往需要不断的舍去一些东西，你才能得到些东西，既然选择了就无悔。
我喜欢的几句话，送给你~
你不能改变天气，但你可以改变心情；
你不能选择容貌，但你可以选择表情；
你不能预支明天，但你必须用好今天！

micle

人生中需要面对的选择很多，由于我们的无法万能，很多时候只能选择其一，既然选了，无所谓对错，得失在一念间。
选择事业，收获名利或成就，失去的可能是一份清闲，一份可以时刻给予家人的关怀，甚至是一份来之不易却被渐渐淡化的感情......
选择随意，难得洒脱，失去的可能是一个难得的经历，不是每一个人都有机会和能力面对艰难的抉择......
即使真能熊掌与鱼兼得，未必是一件好事，因为，缺憾是一种美丽。

jinbojiang

When we were in childhood, we had been expecting to be scientists, novelist and movie stars, etc.
We were told by our parents that only by getting ourselves well educated could we reach the goals.
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We had been on the way pursuing our dreams and studied hard by following the instructions from parents and teachers since we were in the primary school.
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Sometimes we failed and sometimes we got success. It was the dream that excited us to go ahead.
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After experiencing so much,we were in the university. That's the gateway by which we could reach the goals.
We never regretted, on the contrary we thought that we got the first success.
.......
Looking back to our dreams set up as children, we found it is feasible to lower the scientists, novelist and movie stars to be the business men.
Money is the most important.
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We relaxed ourselves in the university and had a very good time.
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After we were push into the society and got the jobs, we have been pursuing our
dreams.
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Sometimes we were excited by our progress and sometimes we got confused.
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We are self-confident that our lowered dreams were supposed to come ture someday,but what was 'someday'?
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The day before yesterday someone was promoted to be the manager of the department.
Although this someone is just as normal as me, his salary is pretty much higher than mine.  
Yesterday someone was promoted to be the.....
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Further more, we experienced so many conflicts with the colleagues and supervisors.
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Why is it so unfair......
we were confused and drepressed.
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We were told that the some formal classmates got married and built up their families.
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We are confused and depressed more now.
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What is our lives' destination? What do we want to get? What is the most important for us now?
We are thinking.....
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and thinking....
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My answer is:
Yesterday has passed.
Today is present.
Tomorrow is a mystery.
We should cherish today.
That's why today is present known as gift.
That is the gift the god gives to you.
To all the memberships in our garden:
ENJOY LIFE EVERY DAY!