[原创]《少有人走的路》笔记
<h1 align="center" style="MARGIN: 17pt 0cm 16.5pt; TEXT-ALIGN: center;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">《少有人走的路》笔记</span></h1><h2 style="MARGIN: 13pt 0cm;"><span style="COLOR: #0000cc; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">推迟满足感</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #0000cc;"><br/> </span></h2><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">人人都害怕承受痛苦，遇到问题就慌不择路，望风而逃。有的人不断拖延时间，等待问题自行消失；有的人与麻醉药和毒品为伴，想把问题排除在意识以外，换得片刻解脱。我们总是规避问题，而不是与问题正面搏击；我们只想远离问题，却不想经受解决问题带来的痛苦。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><br/> <p></p></span></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">许多人都没付出时间和精力，去解决知识、社交、心力方面的问题。其实每个人只要去解决一定有办法，全世界所有的人都是你的资源。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><br/> <p></p></span></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">解决方案：</span></b><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">首先面对问题并感受痛苦；然后解决问题并享受更大的快乐，这是唯一可行的生活方式。必须学会推迟满足感，要把眼光放远。还要尽可能过好眼下的生活，要通过适当的努力，让人生的快乐多于痛苦。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><br/></span></p><p></p><p><font face="Calibri"> </font></p><p></p><h2 style="MARGIN: 13pt 0cm;"><span style="COLOR: #0000cc; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">保持平衡</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #0000cc;"><br/> </span></h2><p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 42pt; TEXT-INDENT: -21pt; mso-char-indent-count: 0; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo3;"></p><p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 42pt; TEXT-INDENT: -21pt; mso-char-indent-count: 0; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo3;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><font face="Calibri">A.</font><span style="FONT: 7pt '';"> </span></span></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">失去生活的平衡，远比放弃更为痛苦。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><br/> <p></p></span></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 42pt; TEXT-INDENT: -21pt; mso-char-indent-count: 0; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo3;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><font face="Calibri">B.</font><span style="FONT: 7pt '';"> </span></span></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">逃避自由：依赖别人，让自己“忙”，不愿去面对挑战</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><br/> <p></p></span></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 42pt; TEXT-INDENT: -21pt; mso-char-indent-count: 0; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo3;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><font face="Calibri">C.</font><span style="FONT: 7pt '';"> </span></span></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">恰当表达生气的情绪：有时需要委婉，有时需要直接；有时需要心平气和；有时不妨火冒三丈。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><br/> </span></p><p></p><h2 style="MARGIN: 13pt 0cm;"><span style="COLOR: #0000cc; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">爱</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #0000cc;"><br/> <font color="#000000"></font><br/> <p></p></span></h2><p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 42pt; TEXT-INDENT: -21pt; mso-char-indent-count: 0; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><font face="Calibri">A.</font><span style="FONT: 7pt '';"> </span></span></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">爱，是为了促进自我和他人心智成熟，而具有的一种自我完善的意愿。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><br/> <p></p></span></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 42pt; TEXT-INDENT: -21pt; mso-char-indent-count: 0; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><font face="Calibri">B.</font><span style="FONT: 7pt '';"> </span></span></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">很多人不懂得如何去爱别人，他们“爱”的只是“宠物”。我们看重的，是宠物对我们的依赖性。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><br/> </span></p><p></p><h2 style="MARGIN: 13pt 0cm;"><span style="COLOR: #0000cc; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">沟通</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #0000cc;"><br/> <font color="#000000"></font><p></p></span></h2><p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 42pt; TEXT-INDENT: -21pt; mso-char-indent-count: 0; mso-list: l2 level1 lfo1;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><font face="Calibri">A.</font><span style="FONT: 7pt '';"> </span></span></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">一个出色的企业管理人员，每天大约用一个小时阅读，两个小时谈话，八个小时倾听。我们从小的教育只有阅读和说话，没有更多的倾听。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><br/> <p></p></span></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 42pt; TEXT-INDENT: -21pt; mso-char-indent-count: 0; mso-list: l2 level1 lfo1;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><font face="Calibri">B.</font><span style="FONT: 7pt '';"> </span></span></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">当我们和某人发生冲突，我们实质上是告诉对方：“你是错的，我是对的。”</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><br/> <p></p></span></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 42pt; TEXT-INDENT: -21pt; mso-char-indent-count: 0; mso-list: l2 level1 lfo1;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><font face="Calibri">C.</font><span style="FONT: 7pt '';"> </span></span></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">冲突时问问自己：“我看清问题的本质了吗？”“我的动机是为对方着想吗？”</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><font face="Calibri"><br/> <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></font><span lang="EN-US"><br/> </span></span></p>[此贴子已经被作者于2008-7-29 15:09:34编辑过] 图配得不错，我也买了这本书，准备这两天开始阅读，谢谢谢谢分享。 <p>多谢<font face="Verdana" color="#61b713"><strong>旅程无限</strong><font color="#000000">兄夸奖，这几天正在看你的图解德鲁克，做得简洁明了、重点突出、有利于记忆，收益颇多。</font></font></p> <p>先表扬下LZ的良苦用心啊，图文并茂！</p><p>很少人能有承受痛苦的勇气，所以在遇见问题之前，我们是否能够先转换一种认知模式，将所有出现问题作为人生的一种经历，而寻找解决方案的过程仅是迷宫游戏的一个阶段，这样也许能更坦然面对问题，并且不必承担过多的痛。</p> <p>有一段时间没看到博爱大师的读书笔记了~~~近期我也在看这方面的书，正在阅读《化解内心的冲突》。《少有人走的路》也在本期读书计划之列~</p> <p>很长一段时间光看了，没用心写！</p> <p>配图有意思呵呵。</p><p>这本书的观点不是很欣赏。</p><p><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">首先面对问题并感受痛苦；然后解决问题并享受更大的快乐，这是唯一可行的生活方式。必须学会推迟满足感，要把眼光放远。还要尽可能过好眼下的生活，要通过适当的努力，让人生的快乐多于痛苦。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><br/></span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"></span></p><p><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;">——说的等于白说。</span></p><p><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"></span></p> <p>“痛苦”的事情来临的时候，首先是接受，而不是逃避。同时在做“痛苦”的事时，尽量用积极向上的心态去面对。</p><p>比如：有时候明明有一件很重要的事去做，但就是不想做。这时我们常常逃避，替而做一些比较“颓废”的事。于是这件重要的事一推再推，而这件事就像噩梦一直挂在心中。结果是：重要的事没做，做“颓废”的事也不快乐。</p> <p>其实这本书的一些观点大家都明白，只是在忙碌中无暇去收集、整理和归纳。</p><p></p> <font face="宋体" size="5">我们从小的教育只有阅读和说话，没有更多的倾听。这句话让我深有感触。</font>