[转帖]为婚姻留住性：来自美国的一位家庭全科医生的观点

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为婚姻留住性：来自美国的一位家庭全科医生的观点 为婚姻留住性—来自美国的一位家庭全科医生的观点 我在北京看到的一个演讲幻灯提纲，演讲者是来自美国的一位家庭全科医生，演讲是在中国进行的，我认为很有思考意义，由于考虑到版权问题，下面仅摘录了一段，与大家分享。 放天 SAVING SEX FOR MARRIAGE 为婚姻留住性 •It is normal and healthy to have sex only in marriage. •结婚后才有性关系是正常和健康的 •It really is achievable •这是完全可以做到的。 •The health and happiness that result are worth and wait. •所得到的健康和快乐是值得等待的。

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未成熟的性的负面心理结果 Negative Psychological Consequences of Premature Sex 1. 担心怀孕和AIDS 1. Worry about Pregnancy and AIDS 2. 后悔和自责 2. Regret and Self-Recrimination 3. 负罪感 3. Guilt 4. 失去自尊和自重 4. Loss of Self-Respect and Self-Esteem 5. 个性的堕落和对性认识的沦落 5. The Corruption of Character and The Debasement of Sex 6.信任动摇并害怕承诺 6. Shaken Trust and Fear of Commitment 7.对背叛的愤怒 7. Rage Over Betrayal 8.沮丧和自杀 8. Depression and Suicide 9.关系毁坏 9. Ruined Relationships 10. 阻碍个人成长 10. Stunting Personal Development

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婚前性行为对婚姻的影响 Effect Of Premarital Sex on Marriage 1.婚前性行为会导致夫妻分手 1. Premarital sex tends to break up couples 2.许多男人和女人多不愿意与已经与别人发生性关系的人结婚。 2. Many men and women do not want to marry a person who has had intercourse with someone else. 3.那些婚前有性行为的人更趋向于婚姻不幸 3. Those who have premarital sex tend to have less happy marriages 4.那些婚前有性行为的人更容易用离婚来结束婚姻。 4. Those who have premarital sex are more likely to have their marriage end in divorce 5.有过婚前性行为的夫妇或个人更容易发生婚外恋 5. Persons or couples who have had premarital sex are more likely to have extramarital affairs 6.发生婚前性行为会误导你找到一个不适合你的人结婚 6. Having premarital sex may fool you into marrying a person who is not right for you 7.不好的婚前性行为的习惯会被带到婚姻中，而毁坏婚姻中的性。 7. Poor premarital sex habits can be carried over to spoil sex in marriage 8.负罪感会让夫妇陷入痛苦的婚姻 8. Guilt may push a couple into a bad marriage 9.婚前性行为会让夫妻失去活力 9. Premarital sex robs a couple of “sexual cement”10. 婚前同居不能保证一个更稳固的婚姻 10. Living together before marriage will not ensure a stronger marriage

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GENERAL seX: IMMATURE OR MATURE CHOICE? 普通的性：不成熟或成熟的选择？ Immature Sexual View 不成熟的性观念 •Expression physical need 表达身体需要 •Act of instinct 本能的行为 •Main focus of relationship 主要关注关系 •Display in public 在公众显示 •“Love the one you’re with” 爱与你在一起的人 •Recreation 消遣 •Emphasis on protection 强调保护 &#8226art of date 约会的一部分 Mature Sexual View 成熟的性观念 •Expression of love 爱的表达 •Act of intimacy 亲密的行为 &#8226art of balanced relationship 平衡关系的 一部分 &#8226rivate 秘密的 •Exclusive for spouse 唯一的配偶 &#8226rocreation 繁衍后代 •Self-control 自控 &#8226art of marriage relationship 婚姻关系的一部分 TIME FOR A “NEW” SEXUAL REVOLUTION 是“新”的性革命的时候了 Abstinence until entering a committed, lifelong, mutually faithful, monogamous relationship(marriage). 节制直到进入一种忠实的、毕生的、相互信靠的、一夫一妻的关系（婚姻） Both abstinence until marriage and faithfulness in marriage supported by society. 双方节制直到结婚，并且忠实于受社会支持的婚姻。 Taken from Abstinence Survival Kit by Abstinence Clearinghouse Larry Gee 医生 Dr Larry Gee 美国家庭全科医生 USA Family Physician 北京，中国 Beijing, China/道谢