着陆 发表于 2010-12-16 13:37:48

[原创]做人可以这么“装”

<span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ˎ̥; mso-hansi-font-family: ˎ̥; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold">&nbsp;&nbsp;<font size="4">&nbsp; 前两天,听了郭德纲一相声《你要高雅》,里面有句话是这么说的“高雅不是装出来的,孙子才是装出来的!”,说到这儿时,引起满堂喝彩,“噫”声一片;网络上还流传着这么一句袒露众人心声的话“</font></span><font size="4"><span class="tcnt2"><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Arial; mso-hansi-font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-language: ZH" lang="ZH">莫装逼,装逼遭雷劈</span></span><span class="tcnt2"><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Arial; mso-hansi-font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial">”,引起极大共鸣,亿万网民纷纷转载,最后成了遇到看不过眼的事情时常从牙缝里挤出来的一句口头禅!可见众人对于装</span></span><span class="tcnt2"><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: Arial; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt" lang="EN-US">B</span></span><span class="tcnt2"><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Arial; mso-hansi-font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial">分子的恨之入骨,但令大家纠结矛盾的一件事情是:有多少过来人告诫我们,做人一定要会装,不装前途十分渺茫,于是乎,很多人沦落成了关门吃大蒜出门嚼口香糖的主儿,心理备受煎熬。其实,“装”本身并没有错,关键要看你怎么装,如果装的道貌岸然貌合神离,自然会被众人所不齿,之所以有人说你装,是因为你装的不像被别人发现了而已,你学到的只是装的技术;如果你能够装的形神兼备心口合一,装的所有人包括你自己都信以为真了,你已经把装的技术进化成了一门艺术。那么,做人究竟怎么“装”才可以装出真我,为世人所接受呢?</span></span><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-SIZE: 12pt" lang="EN-US"><?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p></o:p></span></font>
<p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-INDENT: 23.6pt; mso-char-indent-count: 1.96" class="MsoNormal"><font size="4"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New"Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New"Roman'">目标明确,装模作样</span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-SIZE: 12pt" lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></b></font></p>
<p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-INDENT: 24pt; mso-char-indent-count: 2.0" class="MsoNormal"><font size="4"><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ˎ̥; mso-hansi-font-family: ˎ̥; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold">泰康人寿董事长陈东升曾经说过:创新就是率先模仿,模仿可以让一个人少走很多弯路。但模仿绝不不是让你邯郸学步!记得网上有一篇帖子《装小资速成手册》炒的特火,其中里面有几条是这么写的:</span><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ˎ̥; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold" lang="EN-US">&nbsp;</span><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ˎ̥; mso-hansi-font-family: ˎ̥; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold">“网球保龄高雅运动”、“</span><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ˎ̥; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold" lang="EN-US">&nbsp;</span><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ˎ̥; mso-hansi-font-family: ˎ̥; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold">出门打的以车代步”、“晚上不睡早上不起”,如果你真的这么做了,你只能成为一个装出来的伪小资,因为你没有搞清楚网球保龄为的是沟通,没有搞清楚出门打的为的是省时,没有搞清楚晚睡早起为的是交心,你所学到的仅仅只是形式,最后只能徒有其表。我们在装之前必须明确自己的目标,绝对不能为了装而装,我们需要的不是“鱼”而是“渔”,譬如说我们想成为一名成功人士,不能仅仅以名牌服装来包装自己,你需要的是穿出自己的品味,当然最重要的是,你还必须装模作样的学他们身上有内涵的东西,要</span><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New"Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New"Roman'">装大度、装幽默、装睿智、装内敛,可能刚开始时学不像,但慢慢的你掌握了折射这些特质的行为,将这些特质内化为自己所有,让优秀的行为成为习惯,一切都会变得自然起来。</span><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ˎ̥; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold" lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-INDENT: 23.6pt; mso-char-indent-count: 1.96" class="MsoNormal"><font size="4"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New"Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New"Roman'">方法得当,整装待发</span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-SIZE: 12pt" lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></b></font></p>
<p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-INDENT: 24pt; mso-char-indent-count: 2.0" class="MsoNormal"><font size="4"><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ˎ̥; mso-hansi-font-family: ˎ̥; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold">记得</span><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ˎ̥; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold" lang="EN-US">2008</span><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ˎ̥; mso-hansi-font-family: ˎ̥; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold">年美国总统大选奥巴马竞选胜利时发表的演说题目为“</span><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ˎ̥; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold" lang="EN-US">YES WE CAN</span><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ˎ̥; mso-hansi-font-family: ˎ̥; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold">”,语言铿锵有力,情绪激昂澎湃,在现场与选民们形成共鸣,全场高呼“</span><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ˎ̥; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold" lang="EN-US">YES WE CAN</span><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ˎ̥; mso-hansi-font-family: ˎ̥; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold">”,众人对这位黑人总统充满了无限期望;时隔两年,这位颇具巨星风范的男人也未能挽狂澜于既倒、扶大厦之将倾,使得大众的支持率急剧下降,口号也戏剧性的变成了“</span><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ˎ̥; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold" lang="EN-US">NO YOU CAN</span><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ˎ̥; mso-hansi-font-family: ˎ̥; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold">’</span><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ˎ̥; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold" lang="EN-US">T</span><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ˎ̥; mso-hansi-font-family: ˎ̥; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold">”</span><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ˎ̥; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold" lang="EN-US">!</span><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ˎ̥; mso-hansi-font-family: ˎ̥; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold">且不论这位总统功过几何,我们似乎没有清晰的看到他对于“</span><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ˎ̥; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold" lang="EN-US">YES WE CAN</span><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ˎ̥; mso-hansi-font-family: ˎ̥; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold">”的承诺所罗列的得当方法,这就使得民众们觉得他当时的演讲太能装了。再延伸到装成功人士身上,我们在模仿他的外表及行为之后,必须制定得当的方法与之匹配才不会显得徒有其表,譬如说想表现的大度必须多涉猎时政要闻、史学传记类的知识以培养很好的大局观,想表现的内敛必须学会管好自己嘴巴,不要去逞口舌之快,要慢慢学会思考。生活中装的例子也不胜枚举,看到别人的健美身材时,你暗暗下决心要装的向他一样引人瞩目,于是才有了后面的饮食计划与锻炼计划;看到别人因为写汇报总结得到领导夸奖重用时,你拿来别人的总结仔细研读,并下定了定期写总结的决心,目的就是可以装的像他一样得到领导认可。总之,必须把明确的目标与得当的方法一一对应起来,整装待发,这样才会装的有内涵,装的真实!</span><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ˎ̥; COLOR: black; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold" lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-INDENT: 23.6pt; mso-char-indent-count: 1.96" class="MsoNormal"><font size="4"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; FONT-SIZE: 12pt; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New="New"Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New="New"Roman'">行动迅速,轻装上阵</span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-SIZE: 12pt" lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></b></font></p>
<p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-INDENT: 24pt; mso-char-indent-count: 2.0" class="MsoNormal"><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; FONT-SIZE: 12pt"><font size="4">其实很多人之所以装的为外界所不齿,最主要的原因就是行动跟不上,装的不彻底!我们可以通过很多媒介途径来提升我们装的质量,但那只能使你隐藏的更深一些而已,总有一天会被别人识破和看穿,永远记住外界的经验只能让一个人成熟,唯有阅历才会让人成长!所以在目标明确方法得当后,我们必须坚定不移的去执行,把一些浮于表面的东西慢慢抛弃,轻装上阵。譬如在你自身感觉装的有点品位的时候,争取一切机会去评价核实自己的品位档次,找到自身的差距,例如在谈论时事观点的时候,别人看问题的角度比你更独特,思维比你更缜密,你必须知耻后勇,这时你便会主动的去补充一些能量去支撑自己的品位<span lang="EN-US">,</span>那时的充电不再是压力,而转化成了一种动力。还是那句老话,纸上得来终觉浅,绝知此事要躬行,<span lang="EN-US">JUST DO IT</span>!<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></font></span></p>
<p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-INDENT: 24pt; mso-char-indent-count: 2.0" class="MsoNormal"><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; FONT-SIZE: 12pt"><font size="4">只要你心向阳光,我认为你装出来的不是二<span lang="EN-US">B</span>,而是牛<span lang="EN-US">B</span>!</font></span></p>
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dangyang 发表于 2010-12-21 16:34:07

装13不好

一度葛 发表于 2010-12-21 21:26:45

呵呵,感慨良多

yuanmeng602 发表于 2010-12-22 18:26:23

林子之大,不能只有一种鸟。
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