职场有爱，朋友相伴（文章发表于《东方精英》09年4月号
<P style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US><?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: "> </SPAN></o:p></SPAN></P><P style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''">职场上的同事和客户能否成为朋友，品格和性格是两大因素。</SPAN><SPAN style="COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US><o:p><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: "> </SPAN></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''">很多人对于工作中的伙伴结成朋友总是有所保留的，觉得基于交易的友谊或者留有竞争隐患的情意，总是摇摇欲坠。</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt"> </SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''">但我却坚信，人与人之间，一定都是因为对彼此品格的认同而愿意共同走下去的。在工作过程中，因为时时充斥着利益的对抗和协调，反而更容易看清一个人的品格。利益冲突的考验，不是建立友谊的障碍，而是提高安全系数的保障。竞争有道的对手，因为共同的话题和一致的奋斗方向，反而可能成为我们志同道合的好友。</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US><o:p><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: "> </SPAN></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''">品格之外，性格是否契合，倒是我并不在意的一件事。我的朋友有</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US>DISC</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''">四类。</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US>D</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''">总是不太照顾别人的感受，做事只管达到目的，因为优秀而有时候好为人师，态度强横而又不耐烦；</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US>I</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''">唧唧咋咋地闹个不停，大惊小怪招摇过市，是唯恐天下不乱的好事之徒，有时候过于热情的拥抱和寒暄让我尴尬无措；</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US>S</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''">反应有点迟钝，沉默固执，讨厌一切变化，总是不肯冒一丝风险去做一些新的尝试，</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US>C</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''">看上去面目表情冷酷无情，喜欢批判多余赞赏，总是质问我逻辑和推理过程，毫无幽默感，甚至连冷笑话也要问“为什么”；</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US><o:p><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: "> </SPAN></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''">生活在这些朋友之中，我却感到由衷的幸福。因为</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US>D</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''">总会跳出来大声骂我“笨”，提醒着我可能的陷阱和应有的收益，敦促我有所行动；因为</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US>I</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''">笑话层出不穷，用各种创意给我带来惊喜并且乐于在我疲倦的时候替我分担与人打交道的工作；因为</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US>S</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''">无条件的包容和支持，我知道他永远会在那里，心便安定下来；因为</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US>C</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''">的严密规划和推理，让我心中有数，远离那些“想当然”的幻觉。</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US><o:p><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: "> </SPAN></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''">猜猜他们是谁？是的，你猜对了。其实每个人都有</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US>DISC</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''">的四面，只是比例的不同。而每种性格都是双面刃。</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''">我自己的性格是</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US>SC</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''">多一点。理工科毕业的学生，思维相对严密，又喜欢做一些支持的工作，所以相对容易获得别人的认同。但相对的，我的员工也会当面抱怨我说，做事过于谨慎，不擅于自我宣传，有时候让步太多，为本部门的工作带来风险和不便。而我的回应常常是：“都好，发生的都是好的。”</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''">有一次，一位</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US>D</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''">多一点的朋友向我投诉一位</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US>I</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''">说：“你看他太总是把注意力放在鸡毛蒜皮的小事上，完全分不清重点。整日里流言蜚语，八卦是对生产力最大的破坏！”我听后由衷地笑了：“你总是在他讲笑话的时候笑得最开心。而我记得你也盛赞过他的文章观点新颖角度刁钻，是最大的生产力。别忘了，没有这样活泼的性格，又怎给你这样思维发散的文章。”</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US>D</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''">听后也转怒为喜，大叹有道理。</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US><o:p><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: "> </SPAN></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''">这个世界上没有完美的人。不懂得发现缺陷背后的美，就只会曲高和寡，失却很多世上应有的温馨和快乐。我总是提醒我的学员要调试自我，适应他人。</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US><o:p><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: "> </SPAN></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt; mso-ascii-font-family: ''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''">总之，在职场上，人们之间如能在品格上互相欣赏，在性格上相互调适，朋友便会多多。这是我研究了这么多年的行为科学后，领悟到的获得友谊的秘诀。孔子曰：小人同而不和，君子和而不同，这句话值得琢磨。</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; COLOR: purple; FONT-SIZE: 9pt" lang=EN-US><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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