zcmhtt 发表于 2009-3-22 08:06:27

[原创]也谈危机——危机中的自我应对策略(二)

<strong><span style="FONT-SIZE: 18pt; COLOR: #000099;">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 自我成长定位与学习</span></strong><p>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr> 成长管理的关键在于自我准确定位,我是谁?来自何方?去向何处?,通过对自我过去的成长经历回顾,现在成长的处境与资源分析以及未来成长内心的向往的认识,了解和认识自己的性格、潜能特征,进行合理的自我成长定位,制定适合自己成长的学习与职业发展计划,避免盲目性的择业与学习。</p><p>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>由于社会资源自身限制,我们从小就生活在一个标准、模块化的教育环境中,形成几乎同一标准的成长模式:读书——学业优秀——顺利工作——美好人生,标准化模式的好处在于,能够最大程度让众多人受益与基础知识教育,他的不足在于忽视了作为生命体本身的人内在目标需求、个性差异,最为重要的是模式化学习不知不觉养成了我们被动学习的习惯,学习是因为父母、家庭要求,是社会竞争、生存的需要,学习一开始,就是压迫式的,被动、竞争对立的,而非主动、和谐喜悦的,读书变成一场类似于古罗马角斗竞技,直至于忽视学习目的的本身!</p><p>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr> 什么是学习的目的?学习对于人首先是一种本能需求,还是在婴儿时候,就表现出对世界的好奇,当每一次在父母的帮助下认知世界时,就能看到、体会到婴幼儿那种因为学习得到满足而发自内心的喜悦,请注意,此时教导小孩的父母甚至保姆,并不一定学识高深,也还没有给予婴幼儿竞争式学习的压力,更多是来自于婴幼儿内心求知的本能。</p><p>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr> 其次,学习是为了帮助人实现自我人生价值的手段,而非目的。学习的本质应该是通过掌握基础知识帮助人认识和了解自我与环境发展的关系,有效的体现和发挥自我价值:如果“我”是石头,就做一个最好的石头,发挥石头的价值,如果“我”是宝石,做一个最好的宝石,发挥宝石的价值,而不是一种理想化甚至还模式化的标准。规范标准化的教育体系,最大好处在于有利于大范围推广和普及,能够让众多社会各阶层都获得基础学习机会,最大的不足在于缺乏发掘个体学习目的,当我们把学习本身当成目的,进而成为竞争标榜自我价值时,学习也就远离我们的本性,无法达成构建和谐内心的喜悦。这就好比学语言是为了人与人之间能更好的表达与交流,语言在这里只是工具与手段,但是如果我们把学语言变成目的,忽视人与人表达与交流的内心,就会出现本末倒置,这样的学习不仅无助于我们成长,反而形成一种阻碍。</p><p>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr> 所以,成长管理的第一步就是了解自我成长的内心需求,确立自我成长目标,建立成长内心动力。那么如何有效了解自我内心真正的需求?这就需要学习和掌握自我认知与分析的能力,可以通过自学,也可以求助成长管理顾问(或职业咨询顾问),通过对自我潜能测评、诊断分析,找到属于自己的内心需求,通过目标设定与行动计划练习,逐步建立自我成长管理体系,培养自我成长管理习惯。</p><p>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr> 正所谓:</p><p>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr> 努力学,不如选择学</p><p>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr> 学最好,不如学合适</p><p>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr>&nbsp;<wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr><wbr></wbr> 受之鱼,不如授之以渔</p>
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