[原创]每月一书之2008年12月推荐书目——《少有人走的路》
<span style="COLOR: #0000ff;"><span style="COLOR: #000000;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: arial;"><span style="COLOR: #0000ff;"><span style="COLOR: #0000ff;"><span style="COLOR: #000000;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: arial;"><span style="COLOR: #0000ff;"> <div class="msgheader">QUOTE:</div><div class="msgborder"><span style="COLOR: #0000ff;"><span style="COLOR: #000000;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: arial;"><span style="COLOR: #0000ff;"><span style="COLOR: #0000ff;"><span style="COLOR: #000000;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: arial;"><span style="COLOR: #0000ff;"><strong>阿懒写在前面的话:<br/></strong><span style="COLOR: #000000;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: arial;"><strong>各位家人好!<br/><font color="#0000ff"><font color="#000000">非常感谢</font><u>boaidashi</u></font>兄主持2008年12月的每月一书；热烈欢迎、期待并需要您来荐书。<br/></strong></span></span></span></span></span></span><span style="COLOR: #0000ff;"><span style="COLOR: #000000;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: arial;"><br/><strong>从alanwoo兄发起倡议, [倡议]大家共同努力，一个月读透一本书如何？(</strong><a class="linkblue" href="http://www.21manager.com/dispbbs.asp?n=151,48872,0,0,0,,0,0" target="_blank"><font color="#0000ff"><strong>http://www.21manager.com/dispbbs.asp?n=151,48872,0,0,0,,0,0</strong></font></a><strong>)<br/></strong></span></span></span><font color="#0000ff"><font color="#000000"><span style="COLOR: #0000ff;"><strong><span style="COLOR: #000000;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: arial;">每月一书活动到现在为止已经开办45期，我会将每月的帖子都汇集到这里，方便大家查找。<br/>我们的宗旨是只推荐可以精读、经得住时间考验的好书，每月精读一本。每月一书活动期待您的参与，期待您来荐书，期待您来做主持。<br/>每月一书活动帖子汇集,并欢迎大家做主持人<br/></span></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; COLOR: #000000; FONT-FAMILY: arial;"><a class="linkblue" href="http://www.21manager.com/dispbbs.asp?n=151,56384,1,0,5,0,0,0" target="_blank"><font color="#0000ff">http://www.21manager.com/dispbbs.asp?n=151,56384,1,0,5,0,0,0</font></a></span><br/><br/><span style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; COLOR: #000000; FONT-FAMILY: arial;">另外，请大家不要跟贴只是使用谢谢之类的字眼，请大家发表一下自己对内容的见解。让我们真正地在家园好好读书，互相探讨，广交朋友，而不只是下载。</span></strong></span></font></font></span></span></span></span></div></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span><p><br/> </p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; COLOR: #c00000; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">书名</span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; COLOR: #c00000; FONT-FAMILY: 'Cambria','serif'; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">:</span></b><strong><span style="FONT-SIZE: 13.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma;">《少有人走的路》</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 13.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Tahoma','sans-serif';"><br/> <p></p></span></strong></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; COLOR: #c00000; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">定位</span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; COLOR: #c00000; FONT-FAMILY: 'Cambria','serif'; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">:</span></b><b><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; COLOR: #c00000; FONT-FAMILY: 'Cambria','serif'; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma;"> <font face="宋体" color="#404040">自律是什么</font></span></b><strong><span style="FONT-SIZE: 13.5pt; COLOR: #404040; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma;">？爱是什么？宗教是什么？</span></strong></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt;"><strong><span style="FONT-SIZE: 13.5pt; COLOR: #404040; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma;"></span></strong><b><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 13.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 'Tahoma','sans-serif';"><br/></span></b><b><span style="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; COLOR: #c00000; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma;">推荐：</span></b><b><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; COLOR: blue; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;"><br/></span></b></p><font size="3"><b><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Arial; mso-hansi-font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;"><div class="msgheader">QUOTE:</div><div class="msgborder"><font size="3"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><b><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Arial; mso-hansi-font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;">这是一本震惊世界的名著，出版后虽未作任何宣传，但经人们口耳相传，迅速畅销起来，它曾在美国最著名的<span id="skey"><a class="blue12a" href="http://search.book.dangdang.com/search.aspx?type=notice&key=%u300A%u7EBD%u7EA6%u65F6%u62A5%u300B" target="_blank">《纽约时报》</a></span>畅销书排行榜上连续上榜近二十年，创下了出版史上的一大奇迹！<br/>这不仅仅是一本书；它是一种出自内心的慷慨行动。<br/> ——菲莉斯·特洛克丝《<span id="skey"><a class="blue12a" href="http://search.book.dangdang.com/search.aspx?type=notice&key=%u534E%u76DB%u987F" target="_blank">华盛顿</a></span>邮报》</span></b></p><b><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Arial; mso-hansi-font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><br/>这是一部罕见的<span id="skey"><a class="blue12a" href="http://search.book.dangdang.com/search.aspx?type=notice&key=%u5FC3%u7406%u5B66" target="_blank">心理学</a></span>杰作，早在1983年，它便成为有口皆碑的超级畅销读物。作者灵活运用传统心理分析方法去解决人生的冲突和难题。它的有效和实用，产生了前所未有的轰动响应。<br/> ——《出版者周刊》</p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><br/>在人类心灵的治疗方面，本书也许是一部开山之作。它提出了一系列解决方案，耐人寻味。<br/>——《图书馆杂志》</p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><b><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;"><br/></span></b></p></span></b><b><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;"><br/></span></b><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><b><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;">家人 <font face="Verdana" color="#61b713">wanlan<font color="#1111ee">推荐：<font face="Arial" color="#0000ff">所有人都必须马上读的书《少有人走的路－心智成熟的旅程》</font></font></font> <p></p></span></b></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><b><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Arial; mso-hansi-font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;">个人推荐：这本书让我理解了爱、自律和信仰。看三遍后你绝对不会觉得亏。</span></b></p></font></div></span></b></font><br/><br/>、<br/> <span><strong><h2 style="MARGIN: 13pt 0cm;"><span style="COLOR: #c00000; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-weight: normal; mso-ascii-font-family: cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: ''; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidi;">书籍摘录与体会</span><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #c00000; mso-bidi-font-weight: normal; mso-bidi-font-family: ''; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidi;"><font face="Cambria">: </font></span></h2><h2 style="MARGIN: 13pt 0cm;"><span lang="EN-US" style="COLOR: #c00000; mso-bidi-font-weight: normal; mso-bidi-font-family: ''; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidi;"><h2 style="MARGIN: 13pt 0cm;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 22pt; COLOR: #002060; LINE-HEIGHT: 173%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">你不能解决问题，你就会成为问题（自律）</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 22pt; COLOR: #002060; LINE-HEIGHT: 173%; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p></p></span></h2><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 28pt; mso-char-indent-ｃｏｕｎｔ: 2.0;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-themecolor: text1;">人生是一个面对问题并解决问题的过程。问题能激发我们的智慧，激发我们的勇气；问题是我们成功与失败的分水岭，为解决问题而付出努力，能使思想和心智不断成熟。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-themecolor: text1;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 28pt; mso-char-indent-ｃｏｕｎｔ: 2.0;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">人人都害怕承受痛苦，遇到问题就慌不择路，望风而逃。有的人不断拖延时间，等待问题自行消失；有的人与麻醉药和毒品为伴，想把问题排除在意识以外，换得片刻解脱。我们总是规避问题，而不是与问题正面搏击；我们只想远离问题，却不想经受解决问题带来的痛苦。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt; mso-char-indent-ｃｏｕｎｔ: 1.5;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-themecolor: text1;">规避问题和逃避痛苦的趋向，是人类心理疾病的根源。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-themecolor: text1;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt; mso-char-indent-ｃｏｕｎｔ: 1.5;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-themecolor: text1;"><p><font face="Calibri"> </font></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt;"><span>解决问题原则（自律原则）：（结合《生命的七大精神法则》中的最省劲法则）<p></p></span></p><p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 21pt; TEXT-INDENT: -21pt; mso-char-indent-ｃｏｕｎｔ: 0; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><font face="Calibri">1.</font><span style="FONT: 7pt "";"> </span></span></span></b><span>顺受（尊重事实）<p></p></span></p><p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 21pt; TEXT-INDENT: 28pt; mso-para-margin-left: 2.0gd;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-themecolor: text1;">首先接受现实，不要去对抗现实，对抗只会伤害自己，也可以说是一种自虐吧，接受现实需要勇气。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-themecolor: text1;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 21pt; TEXT-INDENT: 28pt; mso-para-margin-left: 2.0gd;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-themecolor: text1;">比如抱怨服务员服务态度差就是我们常见的一种自虐，我们可以通过其它有效的方式解决问题，而不是导致我们用餐不愉快。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-themecolor: text1;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 21pt; mso-char-indent-ｃｏｕｎｔ: 0;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-themecolor: text1;">顺受的最高境界是老子的“无为”，就是“顺其自然，不妄为”。顺着事物的客观规律做事，不对抗，不胡作非为。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-themecolor: text1;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 21pt; TEXT-INDENT: -21pt; mso-char-indent-ｃｏｕｎｔ: 0; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><font face="Calibri">2.</font><span style="FONT: 7pt "";"> </span></span></span></b><span>承担责任<p></p></span></p><p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 21pt; mso-char-indent-ｃｏｕｎｔ: 0;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-themecolor: text1;">承担责任意味着不因为我的情况而怨天尤人。意味着对目前这样一个情况的创造性的应对能力。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-themecolor: text1;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 21pt; TEXT-INDENT: -21pt; mso-char-indent-ｃｏｕｎｔ: 0; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><font face="Calibri">3.</font><span style="FONT: 7pt "";"> </span></span></span></b><span>不做辩护<p></p></span></p><p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 21pt; mso-char-indent-ｃｏｕｎｔ: 0;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">辩护就是想证明自己多重要，而这个重要从来不会因为辩护而获得。当我们谋求权力和对他人的控制或者企求他人的认可时，我们就是在浪费精力，而这些精力没有任何有效的产出。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 21pt; TEXT-INDENT: -21pt; mso-char-indent-ｃｏｕｎｔ: 0; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><font face="Calibri">4.</font><span style="FONT: 7pt "";"> </span></span></span></b><span>保持平衡<p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 21pt; TEXT-INDENT: 28pt; mso-char-indent-ｃｏｕｎｔ: 2.0; mso-para-margin-left: 2.0gd;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">失去生活的平衡，远比放弃更为痛苦。</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-themecolor: text1;">不管是谁，经过人生旅途的急转弯，都必须放弃某些快乐，放弃属于自己的一部分。比如你想去看电影同时又想听音乐剧，但是它们是在同一个时间，你就必须选择放弃某样，然后尽情地享受所选择的，而不是选择之后还在思考自己是否选错了，如果选择另一样会怎么样，这种思考方式带给你的只有痛苦。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-themecolor: text1;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 21pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt; mso-char-indent-ｃｏｕｎｔ: 1.5;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-themecolor: text1;">失衡的表现比如：我们常常依赖别人，让自己“忙”，不愿去面对挑战。再比如：男女朋友关系的失衡，一方在拼命的付出，另一方在沉重地接受。又比如：我们不懂得如何生气，其实恰当地表达生气的情绪：有时需要委婉，有时需要直接；有时需要心平气和；有时不妨火冒三丈；如何生气是我们需要掌握的本领。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-themecolor: text1;"><p></p></span></p></span></h2></strong></span> <p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 21pt; TEXT-INDENT: -21pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; mso-char-indent-ｃｏｕｎｔ: 0;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><font face="Calibri">5.</font><span style="FONT: 7pt '';"> </span></span></span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">推迟满足感</span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050;"><p></p></span></b></p><p></p><p></p><p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 21pt; mso-char-indent-ｃｏｕｎｔ: 0;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-themecolor: text1;">推迟瞒住感，意味着不贪图暂时的安逸，重新设置人生快乐与痛苦的次序：首先，面对问题并感受痛苦；然后，解决问题并享受更大的快乐，这是唯一可行的生活方式。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-themecolor: text1;"><p></p></span></p><p></p><p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 21pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">自尊自爱的感觉，是自律的基础。自律的核心，就是学习自我照顾，承认自我的价值的重要性，并采取一切措施照顾自己，这是走向自立的关键。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><p></p></span></p><p></p><p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 21pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">作业：我们每个人都在逃避一些事情，而这些事情一直纠缠着你，让你不快乐，现在请你停下阅读，列举出</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red;"><font face="Calibri">5</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">件你一直在逃避的对你又比较重要的事。想想这</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red;"><font face="Calibri">5</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">件事情带给你的快乐和痛苦，然后决定是否去解决它们！！！</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red;"><p></p></span></p><p></p><p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt;"><span lang="EN-US"><p><font face="Calibri"> </font></p></span></p><p><font face="Calibri"> </font></p><p></p><h2 style="MARGIN: 13pt 0cm;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 22pt; COLOR: #002060; LINE-HEIGHT: 173%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">爱</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 22pt; COLOR: #002060; LINE-HEIGHT: 173%; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p></p></span></h2><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">出于爱而去做的事情最省劲，因为大自然是靠爱的能量聚集起来的。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><font face="Calibri">----</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">《生命的七大精神法则》</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><p></p></span></p><p></p><p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">爱是进入另一个人最深人格核心的唯一方法。没有一个人能完全了解另一个人的本质精髓，除非爱他。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><font face="Calibri">----</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">《追寻生命的意义》</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><p></p></span></p><p></p><p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: #c00000; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">爱的定义：爱，是为了促进自我和他人心智成熟，而具有的一种自我完善的意愿。</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: #c00000; FONT-FAMILY: 'Cambria','serif'; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p></p></span></p><p></p><p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: #c00000; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">当事人的意识思维和潜意识思维的目标是否一致。如果不一致，就不是真正的爱。</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: #c00000; FONT-FAMILY: 'Cambria','serif'; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p></p></span></p><p></p><p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">爱，能够帮助他人进步，也会使自我更加成熟。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><p></p></span></p><p></p><p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">爱的本质是自我完善，所以爱从某个角度来说是自私的。如果说一个人不懂得自爱，那么就不会存在爱。自私与否，不是判定爱的标准，唯一的判断标准是：爱</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><font face="Calibri">------</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">永远追求心智的成熟，除此以外，都不是真正的爱。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><p></p></span></p><p></p><p></p><p><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: ''; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidi; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">马克思说人的本质是所有社会关系的总和。那么人自爱的过程中必然会和其他人交流，如果想让自己完善，必然伴随着他人的完善。我们常见那些只为自己着想的人，一生都很难成就大业。那些只想着别人的人，这个社会很少。成就事业的人更多的是我为你着想，同时也为自己着想。你中有我，我中有你，就如一个运转的八卦。</span> </p><p> 八卦.JPG ：</p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">既然人如此，爱自然就如此，完善自己的同时完善了别人，完善别人的同时完善自己。这让我想起老子的一句话：“是以圣人后其身而身先，外其身而身存。”意思就是说：所以有道的人把自己放在后面，反而能赢取爱戴；把自己置于度外，反而能保全生命。所以说爱自己与爱他人的界限很模糊不清，甚至最后泯灭。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><p></p></span></p><p></p><p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">我们常见的爱情中，良性的爱情就能促使双方更加成熟，使彼此成为天使。而恶性的爱情就促使彼此成为魔鬼，走向坟墓。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><p></p></span></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p><br/></p><p></p>[此贴子已经被作者于2008-11-6 8:07:39编辑过] <p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 21pt; TEXT-INDENT: -21pt; mso-char-indent-ｃｏｕｎｔ: 0; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><font face="Calibri">1.</font><span style="FONT: 7pt "";"> </span></span></span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">爱与自律</span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050;"><p></p></span></b></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">前面提到<span style="COLOR: red;">自律的原动力是爱。</span></span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">自律是将爱转化为实际行动的过程，所有的爱，都离不开自律。真正懂得爱的人，必然懂得自我约束，以此促进对方心智的成熟。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt;"><span lang="EN-US"><p><font face="Calibri"> </font></p></span></p><p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 21pt; TEXT-INDENT: -21pt; mso-char-indent-ｃｏｕｎｔ: 0; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><font face="Calibri">2.</font><span style="FONT: 7pt "";"> </span></span></span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">爱与依赖性、独立</span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050;"><p></p></span></b></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">很多人不懂得如何去爱别人，他们</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red;"><font face="Calibri">“</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">爱</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red;"><font face="Calibri">”</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">的只是</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red;"><font face="Calibri">“</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">宠物</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red;"><font face="Calibri">”</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">。我们看重的，是宠物对我们的依赖性。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">这个世界没有谁离不开谁，依赖本身不是爱情，那只能算是一种懦弱。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">没有别人就无法生存，意味着你是个寄生者，而对方是寄主。你们的关系和感情，没有自由的成分。你们是因为需要而不是爱，才结合在一起的。真正的爱是自由的选择。真正相爱的人，不一定非要生活在一起，充其量只是选择一起生活罢了。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">只是苦思如何获得他人的爱，甚至没有精力去爱别人，就如饥肠辘辘者只想着向别人讨要食物，却不能拿出食物帮助别人。他们寂寞和孤独，永远无法体验到满足感。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">母亲把孩子永远当成婴儿来爱，同样也是一件可悲的事。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">至高境界的爱，必然是自由状态下的自主选择，而不是亦步亦趋、墨守成规，也不是被动、消极地抗拒心灵的呼唤。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt;"><span lang="EN-US"><p><font face="Calibri"> </font></p></span></p><p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 21pt; TEXT-INDENT: -21pt; mso-char-indent-ｃｏｕｎｔ: 0; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><font face="Calibri">3.</font><span style="FONT: 7pt "";"> </span></span></span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">爱与自我牺牲</span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050;"><p></p></span></b></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">不合理的给予以及破坏性的滋养，都有一个共同特征：给予者以“爱”做幌子，只是想满足自己的需要，却从不把对方心智成熟当一回事。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">爱得过分，还莫如不爱；该拒绝时却一味给予，不是仁慈，而是伤害。越俎代庖地去照顾有能力照顾自己的人，只会使对方产生更大的依赖感，这就是对爱的滥用。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">夫妻双方以爱为出发点，为对方的成长尽心尽力，甚至适当做出牺牲，才会获得同等乃至更大的进步。夫妻任何一方登上人生的顶峰，都可以大幅度提高婚姻质量，将感情和家庭提升到更高层次。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">真正的爱，不是单纯的给予，还包括适当的拒绝、及时的赞美、得体的批评、恰当的争论、必要的鼓励、温柔的安慰、有效的敦促。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt;"><span lang="EN-US"><p><font face="Calibri"> </font></p></span></p><p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 21pt; TEXT-INDENT: -21pt; mso-char-indent-ｃｏｕｎｔ: 0; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><font face="Calibri">4.</font><span style="FONT: 7pt "";"> </span></span></span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">爱与感觉</span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050;"><p></p></span></b></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">爱，不是感觉。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">爱是实际行动，是真正的付出。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">真正的爱不是忘乎所以，而是深思熟虑，是奉献全部身心的重大决定。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt;"><span lang="EN-US"><p><font face="Calibri"> </font></p></span></p><p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 21pt; TEXT-INDENT: -21pt; mso-char-indent-ｃｏｕｎｔ: 0; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><font face="Calibri">5.</font><span style="FONT: 7pt "";"> </span></span></span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">爱与关注</span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050;"><p></p></span></b></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">爱最重要的体现形式，就是关注。我们爱某个人，一定会关注对方，进而帮助对方成长。关注对方的心情，关注对方的成长，关注对方的工作。我相信大家都会去关注身边的人，关键在于是否用“心”去关注。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">体现关注最常见、最重要的方式，就是“倾听”。一个出色的企业管理人员，每天大约用一个小时阅读，两个小时谈话，八个小时倾听。<span style="COLOR: red;">我们从小的教育只有阅读和说话，没有更多的倾听。</span></span></p> <p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 21pt; TEXT-INDENT: -21pt; mso-char-indent-ｃｏｕｎｔ: 0; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><font face="Calibri">6.</font><span style="FONT: 7pt '';"> </span></span></span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">爱与冲突</span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050;"><p></p></span></b></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">当我们和某人发生冲突，我们实质上是告诉对方：“你是错的，我是对的。”</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">冲突时问问自己：“我看清问题的本质了吗？”“我的动机是为对方着想吗？”</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">富有爱心的人，经常处于两难境地</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red;"><font face="Calibri">-----</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">既要尊重对方的独立性，又渴望给予对方爱的指导。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p><font face="Calibri"> </font></p></span></p><p class="MsoListParagraph" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 21pt; TEXT-INDENT: -21pt; mso-char-indent-ｃｏｕｎｔ: 0; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><font face="Calibri">7.</font><span style="FONT: 7pt '';"> </span></span></span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;">爱来自何方？</span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: #00b050;"><p></p></span></b></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">这个问题作者在本部分没有讲，而在书的第四部分提到。</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">爱的本质是自我完善的意愿。那么爱是否就是人的一种原始的本能呢？而动物也有爱，那么爱是否就是动物的一种本能呢？“物竞天择，适者生存”这是大自然的规律，所有的动物必须要进化，要趋利避害，才能在大自然中生存和繁衍。而爱是趋利避害的最有效的手段，所以</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">爱就是动物的本性，也是人的本性。</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">那么人进化的目的地就是心智的自我成熟。它的阻力是什么？作者在本书的第四部分给出了答案。爱的最大阻力就是懒惰。用图表达如下：</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p></p></span> </p><p>进化.JPG ：</p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">人在不断的自我心灵论辩中成长，这需要时间，也需要坚强的意志。人的本质就是在不断地革自己的命。心灵论辩的核心阻力就是懒惰。</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">懒惰与你多少时间工作，如何对别人尽职尽责没有多少关系。懒惰的一个主要特征就是恐惧感。当我们面临难题时，我们害怕做大量的工作，害怕改变现有的思维模式。这些抵抗显示的动机，源于恐惧，而恐惧的基础是懒惰。</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">一个人的心智越是成熟，就越是能察觉到自身的懒惰；越是自我反省，就越是能找到懒惰的痕迹。</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">爱是懒惰的对立面，一般意义上的懒惰，无非是消极地失去爱的能力。</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">人人都有两个自我，一个是病态的，一个是健康的；一个走向生存，一个走向死亡。人的进化过程就是健康的自我对抗变态自我的过程。</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p></p></span></p><p><br/></p> <h2 style="MARGIN: 13pt 0cm;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 22pt; COLOR: #002060; LINE-HEIGHT: 173%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">成长与宗教</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 22pt; COLOR: #002060; LINE-HEIGHT: 173%; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p></p></span></h2><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">对于世界的规律和本质，每个人都有特定的看法与信念，只是未必说出来而已。</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">其实我们每个人都有信仰，只是不一定信仰有形的宗教，如佛教、伊斯兰教、犹太教等，而是信仰自己组合起来的教派，它没有名字，这对于每个人都是独一无二的。在我看来，这更像是对世界观的定义。</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">孩子对所谓信仰的了解，往往来自父母的人性</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><font face="Calibri">------</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">父母充满爱心，悲天悯人，孩子们就会相信上帝充满爱心、普度众生。这样，即便到了成年，在他们的心中，世界仍和童年时一样，充满爱和温暖。假如父母言而无信、睚眦必报，孩子成年后，就会感觉世界充满邪恶。从小得不到关心的孩子，长大后就会缺乏安全感，对世界和周围的人充满戒心和敌意。</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">我们对于世界观的认识，大多来自父母，所以是“二手”的，科学技术可以是“二手”的，因为它有标准答案；但是自己的信仰没有标准答案，必须要通过自己的思辨和探索，因为这是一个人的精神支柱。想要真正地活着，就必须拥有自己的语言，拥有独一无二的怀疑和挑战的意识。</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">要建立与现实相适应的宗教与世界观，我们必须不断学习，</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">心智的成熟，其实就是从家庭这个小宇宙进入社会这个大宇宙的历程。</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">最有活力、最适合我们的宗教，理应从我们对现实的经验和认识中产生。经由质疑、挑战、检验的宗教，才是属于我们的宗教。</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p><font face="Calibri"> </font></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">家庭对人的影响程度，举两个例子。</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">第一个例子：</span></b><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">我同学到国内某知名企业面试，回来说，面试官几乎问了他祖宗八代的事情。很有道理，父母对我们的影响太深了。现在就可以验证：父母感情不太和的家庭，子女或多或少有一些负面影响。不信你现在想想你周围的朋友。</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">第二个例子：</span></b><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">前不久看了一部电影叫《被嫌弃的松子的一生》，松子父亲从小就偏爱松子的妹妹，松子为了获得父亲的爱，经常做一个古怪的动作。小时候的影响，导致松子的一生都在为了获得别人的爱而努力，特别害怕失去已经拥有的东西，对于男朋友的选择上，因为害怕失去，所以她不在乎男朋友是怎样的人，她的男友包括自杀的作家、前男友的对手、黑社会分子。最后松子潦倒一生地死去。松子的一生一直为了迎合别人，而失去了自我。</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p><font face="Calibri"> </font></p></span></p><h2 style="MARGIN: 13pt 0cm;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 22pt; COLOR: #002060; LINE-HEIGHT: 173%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">神奇的力量</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 22pt; COLOR: #002060; LINE-HEIGHT: 173%; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p></p></span></h2><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">作者在本书的第四部分，主要介绍了潜意识。潜意识占了我们所有意识的</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><font face="Calibri">95%</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">，梦就是潜意识的一种表现，我们大多数人都没有利用好梦这个工具，梦是我们现实的写照。对于这部分的具体应用，强烈建议大家读一下佛洛伊德的《梦的解析》。</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">潜意识是人类进化的本能，是我们生存中的自我防卫机制。</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p><font face="Calibri"> </font></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;">心智的成熟之旅艰苦卓绝，无论是思考还是行动，你都离不开勇敢、进取和独立的精神。即便有先知的告诫，你仍需独立前行。</span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: red; mso-ansi-language: ZH-CN;"><p></p></span></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; COLOR: #c00000; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">相关书籍下载地址</span></b></p><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; COLOR: #c00000; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"></span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; COLOR: #404040; FONT-FAMILY: ';;"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt;"><br/><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: ˎmso-bidi-font-family:宋体; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;"><span lang="EN-US"><a href="http://bbs.21manager.com/dispbbs.asp?n=151,87137,0,0,0,0,0,0"><strong>所有人都必须马上读的书《少有人走的路－心智成熟的旅程》</strong><br/> </a></span></span></span></p></span><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; 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LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: ˎmso-bidi-font-family:宋体; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;"></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: ˎmso-bidi-font-family:宋体; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体;"><a href="http://bbs.21manager.com/dispbbs.asp?n=151,197320,0,0,0,0,0,0">大爱无声</a></span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; COLOR: #c00000; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"></span></b></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; COLOR: #c00000; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">作者简介：</span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; COLOR: #c00000; FONT-FAMILY: 'mso-ascii-theme-font:major-latin;mso-fareast-theme-font:major-fareast;mso-hansi-theme-font:major-latin;mso-fareast-font-family:宋体;;;"><br/> <p></p></span></b></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="BACKGROUND: #f4f4f4; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; WORD-BREAK: break-all; TEXT-INDENT: 27pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-pagination: widow-orphan; mso-char-indent-ｃｏｕｎｔ: 2.25;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: ˎmso-bidi-font-family:宋体; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;">M·斯科特·派克，我们这个时代最杰出的心理医生，他的杰出不仅在其智慧，更在于他的真诚和勇气。儿童时，他就以“童言无忌”远近闻名；少年时，他又勇敢地放弃了父母为他安排的辉煌前程，毅然选择了自己的人生道路，最终当上了一名心理医生。他曾在美军日本冲绳基地担任心理医生，为美军军官做心理医生。在近二十年的职业生涯中，他治俞了成千上万个病人，他以从业经验为基础写作的《少有人走的路》，创造了出版史上的一大奇迹。</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: ˎmso-bidi-font-family:宋体; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;"><span lang="EN-US"><br/> <p></p></span></span></p><p></p><p></p><p></p>
[此贴子已经被作者于2008-11-6 7:54:31编辑过] <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; COLOR: #c00000; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">目录</span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; COLOR: #c00000; FONT-FAMILY: 'mso-ascii-theme-font:major-latin;mso-fareast-theme-font:major-fareast;mso-hansi-theme-font:major-latin;mso-fareast-font-family:宋体;;;"><br/> <p></p></span></b></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="BACKGROUND: #f4f4f4; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; WORD-BREAK: break-all; TEXT-INDENT: 27pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-char-indent-ｃｏｕｎｔ: 2.25; mso-pagination: widow-orphan;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: ˎmso-fareast-font-family:宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;">第一部分 自律<br/>问题和痛苦<br/>推迟满足感<br/>父母的过错<br/>解决问题的时机<br/>承担责任<br/>神经官能症与人格失调<br/>逃避自由<br/>尊重理实<br/>移情：过时的地图<br/>迎接挑战<br/>隐瞒真相<br/>保持平衡<br/>抑郁的价值<br/>放弃与新生<br/> 第二部分 爱<br/>爱的定义<br/>陷入情网<br/>浪漫爱情的神话<br/>自我界限<br/>依赖性<br/>精神贯注<br/>“自我牺牲”<br/>爱，不是感觉<br/>关注的艺术<br/>死亡的风险<br/>独立的风险<br/>承诺的风险<br/>冲突的风险<br/>爱的自律<br/>爱与独立<br/>爱与心理治疗<br/>爱的神秘性<br/> 第三部分 成长与宗教<br/>宗教与世界观<br/>科学的宗教<br/>凯茜的故事<br/>马西娅的故事<br/>特德的故事<br/>婴儿与洗澡水<br/> 第四部分 神奇的力量<br/>健康的奇迹<br/>潜意识的奇迹<br/>好运的奇迹</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: ˎmso-fareast-font-family:宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;"><br/></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: ˎmso-fareast-font-family:宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;">进化的奇迹<br/></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: ˎmso-fareast-font-family:宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;">熵与原罪<br/>邪恶的本质<br/>意识的进化<br/>力量的本质<br/>俄瑞斯忒斯的传说<br/>抗拒潜意识的暗示<br/></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="BACKGROUND: #f4f4f4; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; WORD-BREAK: break-all; TEXT-INDENT: 27pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-char-indent-ｃｏｕｎｔ: 2.25; mso-pagination: widow-orphan;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: black; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: ˎmso-fareast-font-family:宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;">后记<span lang="EN-US"><br/></span></span></p>
[此贴子已经被作者于2008-11-6 10:19:43编辑过] <p>真棒，真理总是会散发光芒。传播真理，自然具有力量～～崇拜一下！</p><p>喜欢里面的很多观点。</p><p>楼主加油！！</p> <font face="Arial" size="4">感谢<strong><font color="#61b713">boaidashi</font></strong>兄的推荐!<br/><br/>《少有人走的路》<br/>1.Stephen Covey的《高效能人士的七个习惯》中关于"爱不是一种感觉，爱是一个动词，是行动。是去关心她、了解她、保护她、关爱她，奉献自己去爱她。"，此观点精彩绝伦，让我折服，并有所悟，现在发现来源于本书的《爱，不是感觉》一章。<br/><br/>2.Stephen Covey的《要事第一》中有段精彩的关于生活本质的表述(参考本书中文版P358)，直接摘录自此书，不过中文版中把这本书名翻译做《荒无人烟的道路》，作者翻译成了斯科特·派克女士。<br/><br/>关于生活本质的表述引文如下:<br/></font><font face="Arial"><font size="4"><strong>"生活是困难的，这是一个伟大的真理，最伟大的真理之一。<br/>它之所以是一个伟大的真理，是因为一旦我们看到这个真理，我们就会跨越这个真理。<br/>一旦我们知道生活是困难的——那么就会变得不再困难。<br/>一旦承认这一点，生活是困难的事实变得无关紧要了。"<br/><br/></strong><br/>这本书历史悠久，出版于1982年，后来的《高效能人士的七个习惯》显然受了此书很大的启发和影响，两者都用了很多心理学的知识应用于日常生活之中。<br/>不要把《少有人走的路》当作一本心理学的书籍，尽管涉及了一些心理学的内容，其实应该算作是谈人生、谈论对爱的理解、承诺、独立、自律等等这方面的书籍，应该与《高效能人士的七个习惯》归为一类。<br/>所谓少有人走的路，是相对于大多数人对人生的理解和走的道路而言的。少有人走的路，才是通往幸福的更光明的、更宽广的道路。<br/><br/>如果你读懂并喜欢《高效能人士的七个习惯》，相信这本书也正适合你。<br/></font></font>